Kierra Taylor, a mother based in Alberta, Canada, has sparked a heated discussion about modern parenting techniques by openly rejecting traditional safety measures like baby gates. With an 11-month-old son named Leo, Kierra advocates for a parenting philosophy she describes as "f*** around and find out," which centers on allowing children to experience natural consequences from a young age.
Embracing Natural Consequences
Before becoming a mother, Kierra worked as a nanny, and she has always adhered to the belief that children learn best through direct experience. For her, this means if Leo pulls her hair, she gently pulls it back to show him the effect. Similarly, if he refuses a meal she has prepared, no alternative options are offered, teaching him to accept what is available.
Teaching Independence Early
Kierra has spent the past year teaching Leo to navigate stairs independently, as she does not use baby gates in her home. Beyond stairs, she avoids most baby-proofing contraptions, except for securing cabinets with toxic cleaning chemicals. She argues that this approach fosters resilience and independence, preparing children for future challenges.
"I feel like why are we coddling babies and creating humans who are afraid to fall," Kierra says. "We need to be creating strong people, and I’m sorry, I fully believe this generation is, in the most respectful way, too soft." She believes that children who are not afraid to fall off high platforms at parks will not be afraid to soar later in life.
Facing Criticism and Misunderstandings
Kierra acknowledges that her methods are not for everyone and often attract criticism. Many people view her approach as neglectful or irresponsible. "I understand it’s not for everyone," she notes. "A lot of people see it as neglect or that I’m not taking care of my kid. I see it as the power to explore things on their own."
She emphasizes that she does not constantly intervene to keep Leo away from stairs, as she fears this would discourage his curiosity. Alongside her partner, Ethan, a 26-year-old labourer, Kierra describes herself as stubborn and willing to learn from mistakes repeatedly.
Alternative Practices and Daily Lessons
In addition to avoiding baby gates, Kierra has introduced other unconventional practices. Since Leo was six months old, he has slept in a twin-sized floor bed, allowing him to climb in and out independently. The couple is also teaching him that their cat’s litter box is not a toy, monitoring him closely to correct behavior when necessary.
Kierra applies the same principle to household items like eggs stored on the bottom shelf of the fridge. Rather than moving them out of reach, she teaches Leo not to touch them, accepting that broken eggs may occur as part of the learning process. "I’d rather him learn those things now than later on," she explains. "I also find he’s less likely going to want to do things he’s not supposed to do with regular access because it’s not exciting anymore."
Sharing Advice on Social Media
Kierra shares her parenting insights on TikTok, where she encounters a wide range of opinions. Some critics suggest she should focus on being a mother instead of making videos. In response, she asserts that Leo is always safe and that her videos are often captured in the moment during daily activities.
Ultimately, Kierra’s philosophy is about letting go of fear. "Let children explore their bodies and surroundings. They’re smart, they’ll figure it out," she concludes. "When you let go of fear yourself, it shows kids you’re not fearful and they don’t have to be fearful."
