As the festive season approaches, many of us will be attending gatherings rather than hosting them. For those wondering how to be the perfect guest, expert advice is at hand. Chelsea Fagan, author of Having People Over, has shared her cardinal rules for guests, emphasising that thoughtfulness trumps extravagance every time.
The Golden Rules for Gracious Guests
Fagan's first rule is simple but vital: never arrive early. "It's stressful for the host," she advises. If you find yourself ahead of schedule, she suggests asking if you can pick up a last-minute item. The ideal arrival time, according to Fagan, is actually ten minutes after the party's official start.
When it comes to gifts, the key is to be considerate of the host's effort. Bringing flowers? Put them in a vase beforehand to save your host a job. Acknowledging the exhaustion that can follow a big event, Fagan recommends a two-part gift: "one for the party itself and one for the next day." This could be a bottle of wine for the evening and pastries for a relaxed morning after.
Communication is paramount. Always inform your host in advance about dietary restrictions, a plus-one, or a late arrival. "Keep in mind that 99% of it is communication," Fagan states. Finally, never underestimate basic manners. Saying please and thank you is foundational, and a handwritten thank-you note sent after the event is a cherished touch that makes the host's effort feel truly appreciated.
Sustainable and Thoughtful Gift Alternatives
Beyond host etiquette, the season calls for thoughtful presents for everyone on your list. For pet owners, consider eco-friendly toys. Many conventional options are filled with plastic, but sustainable alternatives are gaining popularity. The Guardian tested options with expert help—an 11-month-old pup named Koop and a cat called Juno—finding great picks from classic chew toys to hide-and-seek tunnels made from paper and cardboard.
Struggling to find the right gift for your mum? Move beyond novelty mugs and consider practical tech. Based on requests from mothers themselves, ideal gifts include a budget-friendly mug warmer or a sleek wellness tracker that doubles as jewellery.
To avoid generic presents, look to small businesses for unique finds. Eclectic products like beautifully designed tea towels or an olive oil and za'atar gift set will stand out from mass-produced items and support independent retailers.
Gifts for the Great Outdoors
For the outdoor enthusiast in your life, a dedicated gift guide offers tested recommendations. Outdoor journalist Josh Patterson put products through their paces, recommending items like reliable hiking socks and a cast-iron skillet perfect for campground cooking, ensuring your gift is both practical and appreciated.
Ultimately, whether you're mastering guest etiquette or selecting the perfect present, the festive season is best navigated with consideration, communication, and a dash of thoughtful planning.
