A common wedding tradition could see prospective grooms putting a stop to their nuptials before they even start. Along with a bow tie and cufflinks, a hipflask is an essential item for many nearlyweds across the UK, particularly popular in Scotland. While it can be a great keepsake and help calm pre-ceremony nerves, a little-known rule means that a swig of whisky could actually jeopardize the entire day.
Legal Conditions for Marriage in the UK
To get legally married in the UK, couples must abide by several conditions. In England and Wales, the wedding or civil partnership must take place in an approved, licensed room. The ceremony should be freely open to the public, and a registrar or local registration authority must approve all arrangements. Civil weddings cannot include religious content. Crucially, no alcohol can be consumed in the ceremony room for one hour before or during the proceedings. If the registrar suspects intoxication, they are required to stop the ceremony.
Alex McMillan, founder of wedding accessories brand Sayers London, explains: 'What many couples don’t realise is that registrars have a legal responsibility to ensure both parties are entering the marriage willingly and understand what they’re agreeing to. Even carrying a drink or hipflask into a ceremony room could get you into trouble.' He warns that the hint of strong alcohol on your breath could be enough to stop your big day from continuing.
Why the Rule Exists
Mair Garland, a London-based celebrant, says: 'Wedding ceremonies are moments to be fully present for. They include the most beautiful and meaningful words a couple will ever say to each other, which deserve to be experienced clearly and remembered properly.' While she understands that a small glass of fizz or a dram from a hipflask can steady nerves, she emphasizes the difference between taking the edge off and becoming intoxicated.
Popularity of Hipflasks at Weddings
Hipflasks are often engraved and personalised, making them special gifts for groomsmen. On Reddit, some users bring hipflasks to reduce bar costs, while others enjoy 'a cheeky drink with friends.' One user wrote: 'I have two in my jacket pockets for every wedding. It gives me a chance to break the ice, calm the groom down with a nip. Plus, I get started early before the priced drinks start.' Women also participate, with one commenting that she hides her flask 'in her bra.'
Real Consequences of Intoxication
A retired minister who conducted over 1,000 weddings shared on Reddit that he refused to perform a ceremony when the groom was too intoxicated to stand up. The wedding was rescheduled for the afternoon to allow the groom to sober up. Wedding officiant @fancigirl25 stated: 'If a couple show up drunk or under the influence on their wedding day, I’m not performing the ceremony.' Another user, @WildWillieBorsch, added: 'If they wouldn’t pass a DUI test, they should sober up before they agree to a lifetime commitment.' Some officiants try to remedy the situation with minimal disruption, such as rescheduling or having the couple sign paperwork the next day.
Given the effort that goes into a wedding, a last-minute change of plans is unlikely to go down well. So, think before you drink ahead of your special day—or at least make sure you aren’t caught.
