Roster dating, the practice of dating multiple people simultaneously, has been rebranded by Gen Z as an intentional and growth-enhancing approach to finding love, rather than the indecisive 'playing the field' of previous generations. The term has been around for about a decade, but the concept is much older.
What is roster dating?
Roster dating involves seeing several people at once, with the understanding that each may fulfill different needs, such as excitement, devotion, or artistic connection. Dating coach Sara Tick recommends keeping a roster to five or fewer partners to manage effectively. The key is openness and honesty about intentions, though not everyone explicitly discloses their roster status.
According to a dating expert quoted by Vice, 'One of the biggest pros of roster dating is that you can learn so much about yourself.' This self-discovery aspect is central to the practice, which aims to avoid wasting energy on a single connection and instead embraces a journey of personal growth.
Is it commitment-phobia?
Critics argue that roster dating is simply an inability to commit. However, proponents say commitment isn't necessarily the goal; it's about letting go of expectations. The practice assumes that everyone involved may also have their own roster, reducing pressure on any single relationship.
The cost of roster dating
Financial considerations are significant. Research indicates that the average cost of a Gen Z date has risen to $205 (£155). This makes maintaining a roster of five partners potentially expensive, though it's often implied that those who swear by roster dating are not always the ones paying.
Despite the challenges, roster dating continues to gain traction among young singles seeking variety and self-awareness in their romantic lives.
