Ethical porn site Sssh.com has revealed that facesitting, also known as queening, is its most requested intimate act, with 76% of its audience being female. This oral sex position involves a woman sitting on a man's face, with one leg on either side of his head, as he pleasures her with his tongue.
Women Share Their Love for Facesitting
Women on Reddit expressed their enthusiasm for the act. One said: 'It's the only way I can get off, I love it so hard.' Another added: 'It's the easiest position for me to have an orgasm. Though, sometimes I get carried away with the “oh my god am I crushing him” thoughts and it takes a moment to get back into the moment.' One eager woman shared a mishap: 'I nearly broke my husband’s nose when I really got into it. Workplace hazard.'
Men's Perspective on Queening
Men also praised the position. One said: 'Sometimes we are so horny that we want to experience as much of you as closely as possible, and that is by burying our faces in your treasure chest.' Another shared: 'One of my exes really liked to face towards the top of my head and start using my nose for added stimulation when she was getting close.' An enthusiastic lover wrote: 'Face towards my head. The view of a woman’s breasts from below is magnificent. And I can use my hands on the lady.'
Expert Insights on the Appeal
Sex expert Gigi Engle told Metro that queening is great for achieving female orgasm and engaging in light BDSM. Lovehoney’s sex expert Annabelle Knight added: 'By sitting on another person’s face, you are exerting total control in that situation over them. In addition to the physical aspect, the pleasure or stimulation of facesitting is entirely one-way, which adds to the power dynamic.' She also noted that the vulva is positioned perfectly for easy access, and the recipient's hands are free to explore other erogenous zones.
Historical and Cultural Context
Annabelle pointed out that cunnilingus and female sexual worship date back to Ancient Rome and South Asian origins like the Kama Sutra. 'There are also suggestions instances of queening can be found in French paintings from the 1700s, while 19th century artists such as Félicien Rops and Henrich Lossow created art depicting that act.'
Safety Precautions
Gigi Engle warned: 'You shouldn’t fully sit on someone’s face, you don’t want to suffocate anyone. You should be hovering over their face or sitting back more on their chest but you should communicate during both to see what’s most comfortable.' Annabelle stressed the importance of consent and a safe word or action, such as a double hand pat.
