Twilight Sad's James Graham Confronts Grief and Healing in New Album
In the seven years since their last album, Scottish rockers the Twilight Sad have navigated profound personal challenges, including dementia, cancer, and mental health struggles. Frontman James Graham, now 41, opens up about this tumultuous period as the band prepares to release their sixth album, It's the Long Goodbye, on March 27 via Rock Action.
A Journey Through Loss and Renewal
Graham's experiences have deeply shaped the new record. He lost his mother to dementia, became a father to two boys, and faced a mental health crisis that forced the band to cancel a tour with the Cure. Speaking from his home in north-east Scotland, Graham reflects on the anniversary of his mother's death, stating, "It seems like a good day to talk about it." His candidness is palpable, often bringing him to tears as he recounts the haze of illness during songwriting.
The album marks a departure from the band's earlier metaphorical style, offering a visceral diary of Graham's recent years. Tracks like Waiting for the Phone Call capture the dread of awaiting bad news, while Attempt a Crash Landing – Theme delves into dark resignation. The title, It's the Long Goodbye, stems from Graham's experience of watching his mother slowly disappear, describing it as "seven years of saying goodbye so many times."
Collaboration with Robert Smith of the Cure
A pivotal figure in this journey is Robert Smith, singer of the Cure, whom Graham and guitarist Andy MacFarlane affectionately call "Rab." Smith, who became a fan after hearing their debut album Fourteen Autumns & Fifteen Winters, features on three tracks and provided crucial guidance on arrangements. MacFarlane recalls Smith's detailed notes on demos, likening it to "getting a lecture off the teacher."
Smith explains his connection to the band, saying he "instantly fell in love with the attitude, the intensity, the emotion" and values their friendship deeply. This bond was tested when Graham reached a breaking point in 2023, waking up unable to move and canceling a South American tour. Smith's immediate response was supportive, emailing, "None of this matters. Get better."
Personal Transformation and Future Hopes
Graham's priorities have shifted significantly. In his small village, he's known as "Arthur and Norrie's Dad," a role he cherishes. He expresses more pride in being present for his family than in the album itself, highlighting how fatherhood became his anchor during dark times. Reflecting on not touring in 2023, Graham believes it was a pivotal decision that allowed him to heal, starting medication and gradually finding happiness.
The album's closing track, TV People Still Throwing TVs at People, offers a message of hope with the refrain, "It's OK to feel this way." Graham challenges cultural norms in Scotland, where men often suppress emotions, urging openness about mental health. "I'm ready to show people that you can go through that and get to the other side," he says, laughing through tears.
As the Twilight Sad prepares to rejoin the Cure on tour this summer, there's a mix of excitement and trepidation. Graham feels like a different person, eager for a second chance. The band's raw new sound, born from adversity, promises to resonate with fans and newcomers alike, marking a powerful return to the global stage.
