Polly Hudson, a freelance writer, contemplates the impending teenage years of her son as he approaches his 12th birthday. She recalls her own tumultuous adolescence, which her mother still vividly describes, and anticipates the karma that may come her way.
The Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon and Teenagers
Hudson references the Baader-Meinhof phenomenon, or frequency illusion, where a concept becomes more noticeable after one becomes aware of it. After reading an article by Dr Evelyn Svingen, assistant professor of criminology at the University of Birmingham, who argues that teenage brains are "working exactly as designed" when making stupid choices, Hudson begins seeing teens everywhere—in news stories, adverts, and old comedy sketches.
The Science of Teenage Brains
Dr Svingen explains that teenage minds function "in a way that has been shaped by evolution for a unique and uniquely challenging time of life." Hudson finds this both reassuring and concerning, as it suggests her son will make dumb decisions, but that is biologically normal.
Karma and Parenting
Hudson admits that the most awful part of preparing to parent a teen is the certainty that karma is coming for her. Her mother gleefully anticipates Hudson experiencing the same difficulties she faced. Hudson describes herself as a terrible teenager who slammed doors and screamed "I hate you!" She recalls transforming from a delightful child into a sullen, furious, and monosyllabic teen overnight.
Regret and Reflection
Hudson reflects on her past behavior, particularly her embarrassment of her parents. She remembers walking behind her dad in town to avoid being seen with him, a memory that haunts her now that he has passed away. She acknowledges the irony that she would give anything to walk with him again.
The Onset of Teenage Behavior
Hudson notes that her son's descent into teenagerdom has already begun. Recently, he was mortified by the idea of being seen with her in a supermarket, preferring to wait in the car. She understands this is an essential stage of growing up and tries not to take it personally, but hopes he won't go too far.
