For 13 years, Sam believed her sex life and marriage were destined for mediocrity. Tied to a man she describes as emotionally unavailable and unfaithful, the 38-year-old writer and mother of two felt trapped in a relationship that had long lost its spark. However, a chance meeting at a quiz night in 2023 would change everything, leading her to a profoundly different kind of partnership.
While still technically with her husband, Sam met Carl*. Surprisingly, her then-husband, with whom she shares a 16-year-old son, encouraged the blossoming connection, acknowledging their own marriage had run its course. Now divorced and happily coupled with Carl, Sam has discovered a level of intimacy and adventure she never thought possible.
A Week of Intimacy and Adventure
Sam documents a typical week in her new life, which involves a sex life she describes as feeling like lightning. The pair are intimate at least twice a week, prioritising keeping the spark alive through open communication and a mutual willingness to experiment.
Their activities include filming themselves and seeking out unusual locations for their encounters. I love that my boyfriend is eager to please me and it makes me comfortable trying new things with him, Sam explains. This foundation of trust has allowed her to fully embrace their dynamic, where Carl's dominant nature complements her discovered submissive side.
Learning a New Language of Pleasure
One of the most significant shifts for Sam was redefining what sexual satisfaction means. She admits that in the beginning, she was offended that he wouldn't climax during their encounters. Carl, however, explained that his pleasure was derived entirely from seeing hers.
This was a revelation for Sam, who had never experienced such a selfless approach to intimacy. Now, I feel so lucky to have a man who is eager to satisfy me, she shares, highlighting a partnership where her pleasure is the central focus.
Building a Future on Trust and Affection
Beyond the adventurous sex, Sam's new relationship is built on a strong foundation of everyday connection. From Carl studying to become a massage therapist to their monthly socials with friends, communication remains their strong suit.
The promise of an engagement ring, mentioned inside a heartfelt anniversary card, points towards their shared future. For Sam, the mind-blowing sex is perfectly complemented by the small gestures of affection—the warm arm to lie on, the hair stroked as she falls asleep—that make her feel truly secure and valued.
