According to a 2022 World Values Survey, only 75% of Gen Z respondents consider good manners essential, compared to at least 85% among older generations. This shift suggests a 'respect recession' in the UK, where traditional politeness is fading.
Survey Data Confirms the Trend
A 2019 poll by insurance firm Privilege found that 84% of millennials think classic British politeness is old-fashioned. More than a quarter (28%) admitted to cutting in lines, 53% don't say 'bless you' when someone sneezes, and 42% are unwilling to give up their seat on public transport for pregnant women or the elderly. The report also revealed that one in five adults of all ages no longer hold doors for others, and 13% don't say please or thank you.
Public Perception on Reddit
On a recent Reddit thread, users shared experiences of declining politeness. @Chunky_Monkey4491 wrote, 'I have noticed people becoming less patient and more angry, myself included.' @_ShredBundy added, 'It’s like nobody expects to ever have interactions.' Others noted a lack of gratitude, with @Bubble-Master96 recalling that not one of five cars they let pass gave a thank-you wave.
Expert Insights on Causes
Psychotherapist Claire Law attributes the decline to 'time urgency,' where efficiency trumps socializing. UCL sociology professor Dr. Benjamin Abrams explains that civility depends on 'close-knit community ties' that are weakening due to short-term renting, frequent moves, anonymity in cities, and digital interactions. Clinical director Riky Hanaumi adds that chronic stress and emotional exhaustion reduce mental capacity for courtesy, not a lack of kindness.
Loneliness and Social Disconnection
Almost three-quarters (72%) of Brits aged 16 to 25 say loneliness has negatively affected their mental health, above the national average of 54%. A 2025 study found the average adult spends an additional 99 minutes at home daily compared to 2000, potentially reducing social skills.
A Ripple Effect of Kindness
Despite the trends, Riky Hanaumi emphasizes that 'manners are highly contagious,' with small acts of consideration creating a ripple effect that strengthens social bonds. The question remains whether Brits will keep politeness alive amid modern pressures.
