Jillian Pretzel recounts a lifelong pattern of receiving sound advice from her father, only to find that following it led to disappointment. Her dad, a rugged, outdoorsy man, encouraged her to pursue sports, STEM careers, and practical choices. Yet, despite her best efforts, she often felt lost. It wasn't until she chose a college against his recommendation that she discovered the power of doing the opposite.
Early Attempts to Follow Dad's Advice
As a child, Pretzel's father advised her to pick a sport, practice diligently, and aim for a college scholarship. She chose tennis, but after years of lessons, she failed to make the high school team. “I was crushed,” she recalls. Similarly, he suggested horseback riding lessons, but she was terrified of animals. He pushed STEM fields and bought her a telescope, but she found no passion in astronomy.
The Turning Point: College Decision
At 17, her father recommended a large, low-tuition college near his home. Instead, she chose a smaller, more expensive university that felt right. “Do what feels right,” a friend advised. Pretzel enrolled and loved it. This marked the beginning of her experiment: whenever her father offered advice, she would do the opposite.
Finding Her Own Path
By ignoring her father's suggestions on majors, extracurriculars, and internships, Pretzel discovered a love for books and art, eventually becoming a teacher. “I’m not a wealthy scientist or a top athlete, but I’m happy,” she writes. She realized that while she doesn't follow his specific advice, she often applies his logic—being bold, financially minded, and forward-thinking.
Understanding the Relationship
Pretzel notes that her father was never upset by her choices, just confused. When she told him she wanted to teach college, he joked, “I’d rather nail my hand to the table than spend all my time in an English class.” Recently, he advised against a costly trip to Disney World, but she booked the tickets anyway and had a marvelous time.
Conclusion
Pretzel concludes that listening to her own instincts led to a more fulfilling life. She still respects her father's advice but trusts her own judgment. “In that way, his advice has served me well,” she says, acknowledging the lasting influence of his reasoning even when she chooses different paths.
