We all have rituals to boost confidence before a first date: lucky underwear, a quick shot of tequila, or a pep talk with a best friend. Model and TV personality Christine McGuinness, 38, recently shared her own ritual on the It Started With A Kiss podcast. The former Miss Liverpool revealed that her 'rule number one' is a 'pre-date masturbate.' For Christine, it's about 'keeping yourself under control' — having a wank ensures you won't be tempted by a one-night stand you might later regret. However, the mum of three isn't judging, adding: 'Of course, if you want that and that's what you're there for, go for it!'
Beyond keeping urges in check, a tactical masturbate offers numerous benefits. Whether you use a bullet or a rabbit, next time you match on Hinge and arrange a meet, consider picking up some AA batteries first.
Why Is Pre-Date Masturbating a Good Idea?
Stress Reduction
Masturbation is good for you: it boosts the immune system, exercises the pelvic floor, and improves sleep. Crucially, it reduces stress — and first dates are hardly calming. According to Hannah Jackson-McCamley, a UKCP-accredited psychotherapist, 'Masturbation can help reduce nerves or anxiety thanks to the release of feel-good neurotransmitters including dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins. Oxytocin also counters cortisol, the stress hormone, meaning we head into the date feeling sexy and calm.'
It Could Make for a Hot Date
Solo sex helps tap into your flirtier side, encouraging 'responsive desire' — arousal in reaction to touch, context, or intimacy rather than a spontaneous spark. 'By having that connection with ourselves through masturbation, we keep in contact with our own sensuality,' says Hannah.
Improves Body Positivity and Confidence
'Studies have shown that the euphoria enjoyed following such stimulation is linked to body positivity and confidence,' explains Hannah. While it doesn't mean sex is on the agenda, 'we'll feel sexier, which can assuage nerves and help us go into dates feeling sensuous and seductive.'
It Can Lead to Better Sex
When the time comes for sex — whether on night one or later — self-play is important. Hannah explains: 'This leads to better communication in getting your sexual needs met mutually. If you have a good relationship with your own body and understand what gets you off, you'll feel more confident in knowing what you like and be better able to articulate what you want.'
