Backwards baseball caps, keeping a firm hand on the steering wheel while reversing, and doing a diligent look behind are all well-documented things that many women who date men find attractive. The hat thing might feel like a reference from a 90s rom-com, but the UK heatwave has brought it right back. Now, if you have ever wondered what men feel is the equivalent of this uber-attractive fashion choice in women, we supposedly have an answer. Plonking your sunglasses atop your head after a long day in the sun might seem like a purely functional, practical move, but apparently, men love it.
I Feel So Seen
So, how do we know this? TikToker @lifewithlexi08 posed the question: What is the women equivalent of a backwards baseball cap on a man? and the comments were flooded with people talking about shades. @seabent wrote: My husband says sunglasses on my head (specifically when my hair is down) and/or a milkmaid dress. For @Hannah, whose boyfriend agrees that sunglasses are the way to a man heart, it is something about the way it makes the hair look and shows your face. Being bisexual, I am also attracted to women, and I can see what all the fuss is about. It is less about curating a neat hairstyle for these sunnies to sit gently upon, and more about quickly rushing them on top of your head and embracing the messy, nonchalant aesthetic that comes with it. It is about being free. Who cares if your curls are not perfect underneath? It is not that you should need to or try to impress anyone with a simple pair of specs, by the way. It is the summer, and we all need a bit of respite. Not everything needs to be for the male gaze. Who cares, right? But if you ever wondered, it is clearly a vibe. And if you look and feel good wearing them, once protecting your eyes from the rays has been taken care of, it is arguably a win-win.
A Male Perspective
A male friend of mine, let us call him Matthew, is completely on board with this idea. The 24-year-old tells Metro: It just looks cool. It is a good blend of looking laid back while still appearing put together. I have also noticed a lot of women using their sunglasses to change how their hair frames their face, like how you would with clips or a hairband, which can have a big impact on how people look. It is apparently the female equivalent of a guy wearing a backwards baseball cap, and I think there is a lot of truth in that.
And the answer is going to our heads, too, as @Serenity added: As a girlie who always has her sunglasses on her head I feel so seen and hot asf rn. @MJ penned: Everyone saying sunglasses on your head, I have been doing that for yrs and did not realise it was a thing, while @Liv said: I do not even use sunglasses for their actual purpose most of the time. With a caption reading I just love women, @appletoof said: Why is it so attractive when women pull their sunglasses up! OOF. We are with you, gal.
Not Everyone Is Convinced
I feel like I am the ONLY WOMAN IN THIS WHOLE UNIVERSE who feels like she looks SO silly with my sunglasses on like a headband, @ifitsmeanttob lamented, while @Safa argued: I feel like we also pull off baseball caps. There are also women who have woken up to the power of using a pair of sunnies to layer an outfit. @haileyrayne.18 wrote on TikTok: Idk what it is about a pair of sunglasses on top of my head but it automatically makes me feel 10x prettier. So, the next time you are done wearing your sunglasses and plop them right on top of your head, know that they are not just holding your hair back.
