If you find your libido has taken a hit from the relentless pressures of work, childcare, and daily exhaustion, a novel psychological technique could be the key to reigniting your sex life in the coming year. The method, known as 'Arousal Anchoring', was created by registered sexologist Angie Rowntree, founder of the ethical porn site Sssh.com.
What Exactly Is An Arousal Anchor?
The concept is rooted in associative learning, similar to Pavlovian conditioning, but applied to sensual pleasure. An arousal anchor is any sensory stimulus – a specific scent, sound, touch, or visual cue – that you deliberately and repeatedly pair with feelings of sexual desire and arousal.
"It refers to little sensory delights that we train ourselves to associate with pleasure," explains Angie Rowntree. She offers everyday examples: a gym playlist that cues your body for a workout, or the signature spa scent that instantly signals your brain to relax.
In a sexual context, an anchor could be a particular perfume you wear when in the mood, a special cocktail that kicks off date night, or even a specific piece of jewellery linked to a passionate getaway. "Over time, experiencing the cue automatically signals the brain to 'go there' and open up to arousal and connection," Rowntree told Metro in an interview published on December 31, 2025.
How To Establish Your Personal Arousal Anchors
Establishing an effective anchor requires intentional practice. The ideal method is to introduce the chosen sensory cue during a peak moment of sexual arousal.
"Bring your partner – or yourself – to the very edge of orgasm or to an intense, sustained plateau," advises Rowntree. "During that moment, present the arousal cue clearly for a few seconds." This could mean inhaling the scent of a designated candle, tasting a mint, feeling a specific massage oil, or hearing a whispered word.
The process must be repeated to solidify the brain's association. "Depending on the level of intensity, you might need to repeat more – but eventually your brain 'gets it'," she says. For those not currently sexually active with a partner, she recommends using the technique during solo masturbation.
Rowntree emphasises that the practice should always feel positive and is not about rigid training. "Keep the lines of communication open, and if you or your partner feel uncomfortable at any point, pause and reassess," she cautions. The ultimate goal is for partners to learn each other's anchors, deepening intimacy and providing a reliable tool to access desire.
Other Expert Tips For Boosting Your Libido
While arousal anchoring offers a psychological tool, experts stress that a holistic approach is best for addressing low libido. Dr. Babak Ashrafi of Superdrug Online Doctor previously recommended several supportive strategies to Metro:
- Consult a Professional: Speak to a GP if you experience a significant, lasting drop in libido to rule out psychological or medical causes.
- Increase Exercise: Regular physical activity boosts libido and can improve stamina.
- Reduce Alcohol Intake: Excessive drinking can interfere with sex hormone production and dampen interest in sex.
- Practice Meditation: Using relaxation exercises or apps to de-stress can lessen anxiety and improve mood, positively affecting desire.
The Arousal Anchoring technique presents a promising, mindful approach for couples and individuals looking to enhance their sexual wellbeing as they move into 2026, provided it is built upon a foundation of strong communication and trust.
