London relationship coach Sami Wunder charges up to £13,500 a day to help keep celebrity couples together. Her clients include Hollywood actors, TV stars, lawyers, doctors, and finance executives, with some paying £3,000 an hour for her advice.
Top tips for a happy marriage
Sami, who works with high-achieving women across more than 90 countries, has revealed simple habits that can transform a struggling marriage. These include banning phones from the bedroom and learning the importance of saying thank you.
She specialises in helping women reignite connection and rebuild attraction, even in long-term relationships that have gone flat. Through her work, she has noticed a common problem: many high-flying women believe their relationship will improve with more control, more attempts to fix things, or more conversations about the relationship. This is not the case, Sami says.
“It returns through emotional safety, polarity, playfulness, appreciation, and learning how to stop relating to your husband like a colleague, employee, or project,” explains the 38-year-old from London.
“Many modern couples unknowingly become excellent co-managers of a household while slowly losing the romance, desire and emotional intimacy that made them fall in love in the first place.”
Sami, whose work has resulted in 1,300 client success stories, proposals, and happy marriages, advises high-flying women to stop over-functioning for love and instead embrace their feminine qualities to invite love in.
Sami's top tips for couples
- Have proper conversations again. Avoid falling into the trap of making all interactions logistical. Ask questions like: ‘What’s been on your mind lately?’ or ‘What’s something you’ve been dreaming about recently?’
- Introduce moments of micro-joy. Novelty moments keep you connected. The nervous system reconnects through shared emotional experiences. This doesn't need to be extravagant. Dancing in the kitchen, trying a new restaurant, taking a spontaneous day trip, or changing your routine can help interrupt emotional autopilot.
- Say thank you! Appreciation changes everything. Most people underestimate how starved their partner feels for admiration and acknowledgement. One genuine sentence of appreciation daily can begin changing the emotional atmosphere of a marriage surprisingly quickly.
- Soften up. Many women unintentionally slip into hyper-independence, over-functioning, and emotional management mode. While competence is beautiful, attraction often grows when a woman also allows herself warmth, receptivity, and emotional openness again.
- Ban phones from the bedroom! For one evening a week, replace scrolling with connection rituals: tea together, massages, slow conversations, music, eye contact, even sitting together in silence. Couples are often shocked by how emotionally disconnected technology has quietly made them.
Sami adds: “A thriving marriage is not built from grand gestures once a year. It’s built from tiny moments of emotional attunement repeated consistently over time. And if couples are struggling deeply, I always encourage them not to wait until resentment becomes years deep before getting support. Healthy love is a skillset, not luck. Any willing woman can learn it and experience happiness in her personal life.”
