Denzel, 46, and Sarita, 44, both left sexless marriages before meeting online two years ago. Together, they have built a relationship defined by open communication, mutual respect, and a willingness to explore new sexual experiences, including Tantric sex and sex toys.
From sexless marriage to sexual freedom
Denzel was married for nearly 20 years, but the relationship broke down and became sexless towards the end. After the divorce, he focused on being mentally ready for a new relationship. 'I made sure I was mentally ready to move forward and happy in myself, and wasn’t coming into a new relationship with too much baggage,' he says. Sarita also came out of a sexless marriage, where her ex admitted he no longer found her attractive after she gained weight. 'That made me feel disgusting, undesirable and completely rejected,' she recalls.
Open communication and no judgment
From the start, Denzel and Sarita have been open about sex. 'Nothing is taboo and there’s no judgment,' says Denzel. 'I feel free to be myself and she’s very open and understanding.' Sarita adds, 'Within about half an hour of meeting Denzel I really wanted to kiss him. We didn’t have sex on the first date, and the eight days between the first and second meetings felt like a lifetime.' When they finally had sex, it was 'absolutely mind-blowing'. Denzel recalls asking, 'What do you like? I’ll do it,' which Sarita found incredibly arousing.
Exploring new experiences
Sarita introduced Denzel to Tantric sex and sex toys. 'She’s brought a different side to my life I didn’t know existed,' he says. They tried Tantric sex, where they stared at each other. 'It was weird at first, but then I felt this emotion I’d never felt before, like I wanted to cry.' They also use toys, massage each other often, and have mirror sex. Denzel notes, 'I don’t have a foot fetish, but I like hers.' Sarita appreciates that he loves giving oral sex, which is 'so refreshing'. She says, 'From the beginning Denzel would tell me every single part of my body that he liked, such as my feet, and the spot above my bum which he thinks is amazing and I think looks like flab.'
Overcoming insecurities
Both partners have body insecurities, but they talk openly without judgment. 'I know she’s got insecurities around her body, but I try to reassure her as much as I can. I find her sexy and I love her for who she is,' says Denzel. Sarita feels 'really cared for and loved'. They live separately but meet often, having sex about six times a week. 'It’s always sensual and never feels rushed,' Denzel says.
A fulfilling partnership
Their relationship extends beyond the bedroom. 'We have our individual lives, but we come together and work well as a team, both in and out of the bedroom,' says Denzel. They talk about sex as casually as dinner plans and shop for toys together. Sarita concludes, 'I don’t feel like anything’s out of bounds.'
