A 34-year-old single writer from London, identified as Diana, has opened up about her 14-month situationship with a man named Max, detailing how the casual arrangement has helped her heal from a previous relationship where sex was a source of discomfort. In a candid sex diary, she describes a week of sexual exploration, emotional ups and downs, and the liberating nature of a connection focused purely on physical pleasure.
Monday: A Morning After Full of Intensity
Diana wakes up with Max still asleep in her bed, feeling a strange fullness in her heart despite their lack of long-term commitment. Reflecting on the weekend, she estimates they had sex six times, though some moments involved intense touching without climax. She notes that she has started orgasming more readily, attributing this to growing comfort with Max and his knowledge of her body. A particularly heated moment during a film led to oral sex and intercourse, with Diana riding Max before he finished in her mouth. She expresses surprise at the amount of foreplay, which is new for her, and feels she is exploring sexually in ways she never did before.
Tuesday: Post-Sex Hormones and Emotional Reassurance
After a morning HIIT class, Diana feels a bit down, recognizing it as classic post-sex hormones. She craves emotional reassurance from Max but reminds herself that their arrangement is not about that. She acknowledges that the relationship is fulfilling because of the hot sex, not because she wants him as a boyfriend. At work, she daydreams about Max, feeling turned on when recalling their weekend encounters.
Wednesday: Messages and Anticipation
Diana feels lighter after exchanging messages with Max about how good the sex was. They make plans to see each other again, which quells her anxiety. She allows herself to feel excited, noting that every message from him gives her a warm buzz.
Thursday: Solo Exploration at Home
Working from home, Diana changes the bedsheets and discovers reminders of their weekend together. At lunch, she masturbates using an Anne Summer's G Spot Stroking Rampant Rabbit, focusing on clitoral stimulation before penetration. She reveals that she used to watch porn to orgasm, even during her previous relationship, but now she thinks only of Max. She finds that masturbating while thinking about him builds anticipation for their real-life encounters, making them more intense.
Friday: Friends' Concerns and Healing
After a busy day with friends, Diana notes that her friends worry she is wasting her time with Max. She explains that after a long-term relationship with unfulfilling sex, she is not ready to date seriously. She sees the situationship as a way to heal emotionally while still having fun.
Saturday: A Slow Morning of Self-Pleasure
Diana enjoys a slow morning at home, reading in bed before messaging Max. She uses her rabbit vibrator again, finding that masturbating first thing sets her up for the day, leaving her feeling lighter and giddier. She finishes, showers, and meets a friend for lunch.
Sunday: Anticipation and Intimacy
Preparing to visit Max, Diana exercises, does her hair, and picks lacy underwear to feel sexy. She is excited as he is cooking for her. During the evening, Max takes breaks from cooking to touch and kiss her, building anticipation. After dinner, they kiss on the sofa but are too full for more. In bed, they give each other oral before having incredible sex. Diana falls asleep next to him and wakes up to a cup of tea before heading to work.
Diana concludes that despite her friends finding the situationship baffling, she feels more satisfied than ever with a man. She emphasizes that this casual arrangement has allowed her to heal and explore her sexuality in a way she never could before.
